Why Blaming Wives is Unfair: A Heartfelt Reflection on Marriage
Have you ever paused to think — if wives are truly as troublesome as some married people often claim, then why does the tradition of marriage continue so strongly across generations?
Many times, we hear statements like, “Marriage is a trap, don’t fall into it,” or “Wives are problematic, they are suspicious, controlling, and nagging”. Some even complain that their wives don’t allow them to speak freely with neighbors or make independent decisions. Yet, despite these complaints, people continue to marry.
There must be something far deeper and more meaningful that keeps the institution of marriage alive.
The Misguided Comparison: Wives and Laddoos
It has become a casual joke to compare wives to laddoos (a sweet delicacy), suggesting, “Those who eat it regret, and those who don’t eat it also regret”. But those who make such comparisons completely miss the point.
A wife is not a laddoo to be judged with regret; she is a living, breathing symbol of love, sacrifice, and partnership. Those who fail to recognize her true essence display a profound lack of understanding about what a wife truly represents.
Understanding the True Value of a Wife
A wife leaves behind her parents, her childhood home, and a life she has known for years, to build a new world with her husband. She embraces new responsibilities and adapts herself to an entirely new environment.
She manages the household with dedication, paying attention to even the smallest details — ensuring everything is in its right place, often without expecting acknowledgment. She dedicates her entire life to nurturing and growing the family, gifting the joy of children who carry the family’s legacy forward.
Beyond physical responsibilities, a wife safeguards her husband’s character too. She stands by him, encourages him to stay away from wrongdoings, and ensures he stays true to himself. When needed, she offers unconditional emotional support, providing affection equivalent to that of a mother, sister, or friend.
Even during tough financial times, when the salary is low or problems abound, a devoted wife rarely complains. She stands as a pillar of silent strength, becoming a source of comfort and stability during sickness, loss, and hardship.
Despite doing so much, it is heartbreaking that some people label their wives as "nagging" simply because they correct them or raise a concern when necessary. In truth, a wife’s concern is a blessing, designed for the husband’s own well-being.
Imagine Life Without a Wife
Imagine a life without a wife.
- Who would stay awake at night to care for you when you are sick?
- Who would ensure your home is filled with warmth and love?
- After your parents, who would become your closest, most loyal companion?
Brothers eventually part ways, sisters marry and move away — it is the wife who remains steadfast beside you. Without her, a house becomes just a structure, not a home. Without her companionship, loneliness would slowly engulf even the strongest of individuals.
When disease or aging strikes, who will tend to your needs, soothe your pain, and encourage you to fight back?
It is the wife — the invisible strength of the family.
Why Respecting Your Wife is Non-Negotiable
A wife is not a trivial entity to be mocked or belittled.
She is a priceless gift from God, and only the truly fortunate are blessed with a life partner who chooses to stand by them through every up and down.
If you are married, recognize your fortune.
Understand that someone cares enough to share your joys, carry your burdens, and dream alongside you.
- Respect your wife.
- Honor her sacrifices.
- Nurture her happiness.
Avoid speaking ill of her or reducing her to stereotypes.
Instead, celebrate the fact that because of her, you have a home filled with love, life, and laughter.
A Final Thought
Marriage is not a trap; it is a sacred bond between two souls.
A wife is not a burden; she is a co-traveler on the journey of life.
Those who recognize the true essence of marriage will understand that behind every successful and peaceful life is a wife who has quietly and selflessly given her all.
Treasure your wife — because without her, not only is your home incomplete, but you are incomplete too.
C. P. Kumar
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